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Chuck Schumacher

Chuck Schumacher is an American karate and baseball instructor born in 1953. Chuck was raised in Oklee and Crookston, Minn., and has traveled many paths in his life: professional musician, woodworker, baseball coach, certified personal trainer, martial artist and baseball instructor. He and Lynn, his wife of 32 years, have raised two children, Shelley and Phillip. They moved to Franklin, Tenn., in 1990 and have lived there for the past 24 years. Chuck spent 20 of those years as a volunteer coach. He has coached all age groups at the rec level, several competitive travel teams and served as a varsity baseball hitting coach. Teaching baseball and martial arts at his facility, Chucks Gym, Schumacher has become known for his ability to work with young athletes, motivating them to get the most of their ability while developing character traits that will benefit them later in life. Chuck Schumacher’s longtime training in martial arts has resulted in an expert understanding of the movements of an athlete’s body. He has been applying this knowledge of movement while teaching the discipline of the mind not only in martial arts, but baseball. The main focus of his teaching and athletic training has been that mind, body and technique are “one," meaning that all must be present and fine-tuned to develop ones full potential. Coach Chuck's way of teaching young athletes to achieve their full potential has been influential for parents as well as youth coaches. The mainstay of his teaching and writing has been to educate parents and coaches of young athletes as to how they can best play their role so kids can enjoy the process of skill development while learning life lessons along the way. The role of the parent in their child’s journey through sports, Chuck believes, is crucial to their healthy development as a player and as a person. Chuck is the author of “How to Play Baseball: A Parents Role in Their Child’s Journey,” available at www.chuckschumacher.com (signed copy) or www.amazon.com.

CHUCK SCHUMACHER: Coach Chuck — Managing Expectations

There is an old proverb that states, “You can’t put the cart before the horse.” But metaphorically speaking, this happens quite often in youth sports. Parents preoccupied with their kids getting scholarships or playing professionally is an obvious example. But when the primary focus is on these long-range goals instead of playing for the sheer joy of it, expectations of young kids can become unrealistic with some real consequences.

During my coaching years, my expectations for my players were that they gave a good effort, had a positive attitude and were team players. Having respect for coaches, teammates and their opponents was mandatory. If we were to win, it would be a direct result of applying these things over which we had 100 percent control. Through continuous work on technique during team and individual practice, we would improve over time.

For many parents sitting in the stands, expectations for their kids are quite different. Immediate success is more of a priority, whatever the cost. But competition, like life, presents many things that are out of our control, sometimes causing success to elude us. A parent’s inability to recognize this truth can lead to out-of-control emotions.

When unrealistic expectations are present during competition, failure is inevitable. This is not just failure on the scoreboard, but failure to provide a nurturing environment for kids to have fun while learning life lessons provided by youth sports.

The world in which we live can be a loud, distracting place not unlike the field of competition. We should prepare kids to achieve success under these conditions, not protect them from it. But the training must take place one step at a time, mastering basics before attempting advanced technique. When a person’s expectations during training are unrealistic (wanting things too quickly), steps will be skipped and real learning will not take place. When the emphasis is on long-term development, however, it is understood that each step taken produces immediate results toward that goal, even though the progress is subtle and sometimes unrecognizable at first.

When emotions are in charge during competition, mental and physical control are at risk. Parents throwing fits and coaches arguing with umpires in front of impressionable young kids are just a couple of examples. I’ve seen much worse.

Young people are often very quiet about what they see and hear when it comes to their parent’s out-of-control behavior. But if this embarrassing behavior continues, a young player’s enthusiasm for the game can become stale. It creates conflict for them because they’ve been taught to control themselves by the very people who are “losing” control over a game that is supposed to be fun. The truth is, competition can make the most disciplined of us lose perspective when it comes to our kids. But there’s no excuse to allow out-of-control behavior to continue.

Unrealistic expectations by adults turn youth sports into a job and threaten to derail the once-in-a-lifetime experience of being a kid.

The truth is, fun is a major factor why young athletes sign up for sports in the first place. If kids aren’t having fun because of too much pressure to perform, good luck trying to teach them the difficult skills associated with their sport.

When a young athlete consistently fails, the reason may be that they lack interest or their level of training doesn’t equal the level of competition. Either way, they’re in over their head. If parent’s expectations are also out of balance, no one will be having fun. Being challenged with new techniques at the proper time is what will help all young athletes have fun and develop the necessary skills to compete. By doing this, parents and coaches are allowing a young player to enjoy the process instead of dreading the experience of embarrassing negative behavior by adults, caused by unrealistic expectations and out-of-control emotions.

CHUCK SCHUMACHER: Coach Chuck — Making the Team: A Parent’s Role

Michael was a superstar in the rec league at age 10. Every time he pitched, it was an automatic win. Why? He had excellent velocity for a 10-year-old, and the players on the other team were afraid of being hit by his pitches.

But it wasn’t just the speed they were afraid of. More so, it was because Michael’s control wasn’t exactly spot on, so their reaction was to wildly swing and miss. This is the nature of youth sports: It’s possible to have success with undeveloped skills.

Fast forward to high school …

Expecting success as an undeveloped player in high school is unrealistic. At this level of play, a coach can’t afford to have a flame-throwing pitcher on the mound with no control. In highly competitive environments, coaches have no choice but to select players with the skills, attitude and work ethic to do the job, otherwise they will not be able to compete.

Parents often make judgments based on their emotions. Coaches make judgments and decisions based on their experience and expertise.

Conflicts arise between parents and coaches for various reasons, but high on the list is lack of playing time. Everyone wants their young athletes to be on the field instead of on the bench. So, how to best accomplish that?

The process of understanding competitiveness should begin at the earliest noncompetitive stages of youth sports. By being informed about the pathway to future success, parents will have a better understanding and respect for decisions a coach has to make. By teaching their kids to focus on their own efforts, parents and players will also be better prepared to handle any situations that might seem unfair, realizing what they can control, and what they can’t.

Parents whose kids had superficial success early on like Michael are going to be disappointed if they fail to recognize this simple truth: Their child’s early success was not based on the development of sustainable skills over many years. It was feel-good success based on the unbalanced nature of the early developmental stages of youth sports.

Those who put forth more effort over a period of time will have the best chance for success in sports and life.

Consider this: Instead of being concerned about making someone else’s team, what are the requirements to make your own team? In other words, what are you content with when it comes to the amount of effort you are willing to put forth to reach your goals? The measure of a person’s success lies in the answer to that question. If you’re satisfied with an average or below-average effort from yourself, you likely will not succeed in a competitive atmosphere.

Most coaches and programs have in place a set of standards for players and parents to follow regarding playing time, coaching philosophy and practice rules. But no amount of well-considered guidelines is going to make sense to a parent who expects success for their unprepared child. They are more likely to complain, make excuses and blame others.

Before reaching high school, youth sports will have offered 10 years of preparation for parents and players to learn about sportsmanship, attitude, effort, having fun and developing skill. Whether they make the high school team or not, by applying these life lessons kids will be on an enlightening journey that will prepare them for their future. Additionally, by pursuing this honest path instead of seeking shortcuts, parents will become more open-minded and their relationship with coaches will be one of cooperation instead of antagonism.

Michael had a natural ability to throw the ball hard but was never taught about proper pitching mechanics. Consequently, by the time he tried out for the high school team, the coach had no choice but to not select him because his baseball skills were undeveloped. It’s that simple. If your young athlete’s goal is to play sports at a high level, think of it as a character-building process. It includes a willingness and desire to learn, not only for your child, but for yourself.

CHUCK SCHUMACHER: Coach Chuck — Failure: The Secret to Success

Tyler walked back to the dugout, dragging his bat, his head low and tears welling up in his eyes. He had just experienced what all hitters hate the most: A strikeout. My assistant coach, his dad, exclaimed, “There’s no crying in baseball! If you don’t cut it out, were going home!” Tyler was 8 years old.

Instead of teaching his son about the gift of failure, Tyler’s father reprimanded him for showing honest, raw emotion — something very common in young children. At that moment, maybe Tyler just needed a hug, a pat on the back or some words of encouragement. Maybe later a brief talk about perspective, doing our best at all times and learning from our failures would have been better than publicly embarrassing Tyler in front of his team and the whole crowd.

Kids must be taught how to deal with failure, not reprimanded for or protected from it.

chuck1Parents respond to their children’s failures in different ways. Some are like Tyler’s dad, who has no tolerance for failure, never mind his child’s very young age. Others will try to protect their children from any type of failure, or when it does happen, they will make excuses or place blame on someone else. Neither one of these approaches benefits kids in any way; they only benefit the egos of these confused parents. Expecting too much too soon from kids causes “unproductive failure.” Guiding kids through life’s natural letdowns with practical solutions is “productive failure.”

Failure is a normal occurrence on the road to success.

At my facility, Chuck’s Gym, where I teach baseball and martial arts, failure is something that happens on a daily basis. But so does success. The failures that occur are part of a calculated process that leads to sustainable success. As students master their current level, more difficult technique is introduced that challenges the students to higher, more advanced levels. In this way, over time, the body adapts to a higher degree of skill.

Success can be easy to achieve if you set the bar low enough.

If you’re never experiencing failure, you are either not getting out of your comfort zone, or you’re a natural phenom. Most of us are not, so putting in the work and constantly raising the bar is necessary for improvement. The higher the goal, the more obstacles there are to overcome. Even naturally gifted athletes experience failure. It reminds them that consistent practice is necessary if they wish to take their game to higher levels.

The first reaction for most kids when they experience failure is frustration. This is normal. But we must teach them to stay positive by replacing frustration with knowledge. Failure should cause us to learn, not cause us to quit.

Real learning does not take place in a negative atmosphere.

Kids won’t respond in a positive way when they fail if adults don’t respond in a positive way. Whether playing in a rec league or on a travel team, one thing all kids have in common is their young age and their lack of life experience. So, helping kids understand the role failure plays in their personal development is the secret to success.

chuck2Tyler’s dad was embarrassed that his 8-year-old son couldn’t just “suck it up” after his disappointing strikeout. Truthfully, the situation was more about him than his son. Tyler was acting normal. His father was not.

When kids shed tears after a strikeout, a missed goal or a tournament loss, it’s because they feel they have let their parents down. If this perspective isn’t changed, kids will develop a fear of failure. And to avoid it, they will no longer challenge themselves. This leads to playing it safe on the field, which is a recipe for failure in competition. It becomes a roadblock to success, both on and off the field.

CHUCK SCHUMACHER: Coach Chuck — Teachable Moments In Youth Sports

“Guys, one thing you will notice about me is, I never yell at players. I may be one of the most easygoing coaches you will ever have, but I also may be one of the toughest because I will hold you accountable for your actions. I will never yell at you for making an error, but show me a bad attitude or lack of effort, and I will calmly show you the bench.

chuck1“Now, because of my easygoing nature, some of you are likely to try to take advantage of it, thinking there will be no consequences; it seems to happen every year. But another thing you will notice about me is this: I keep my promises and make no mistake, a bad attitude or lack of effort will get you on the bench instead of the field. And by the way, it won’t matter if you or others think you’re the star player.”

This simple talk with my players every year at the beginning of the season was very effective in setting the tone for a learning atmosphere instead of a win-at-all-cost culture. What makes it effective is the follow-up on the promise.

Yelling at players is not teaching; it’s just yelling.

Certainly, learning how to win is an important life lesson. So is learning how to lose. The real winners in youth sports are those kids who have coaches who teach them to win or deal with a loss in a broader sense, not just today’s game. Some coaches will never take a star player out of the game even if they display a bad attitude. The best coaches will be unwilling to put that young player’s future at risk and will teach a life lesson when it’s called for.

In youth sports, the real losses occur when coaches fail to recognize teachable moments.

Teach kids to have the “attributes” of a winner, not just be a winner.

We have all seen professional athletes who lack humility — or have become winners by cheating. Yes, they became successful in terms of fame and fortune, but I wouldn’t say they have the attributes of a real winner.

In order to properly guide young players on their journey, it’s important to have a proper perspective — these are not big-leaguers. Most kid’s attention spans are very short. They will probably horse around a little during practice; they might say something about another player that isn’t nice; they might be a little lazy; and the list goes on. The responsibility of a youth coach — or any adult, for that matter — is to address these issues, not just win games. When this approach is taken, not only will they be better at their sport, kids will be learning valuable lessons for their future.

Even high school players who might think they know it all have much to learn. Lack of humility has ended many players dreams prematurely because with a know-it-all attitude, a person ceases to learn and grow in terms of mental and physical abilities. Humility will win over arrogance every time!

This is a great quote to remember from the Greek philosopher Epictetus who lived 1900 years ago:

It is impossible to begin to learn that which one thinks one already knows.”

A complete list of teachable moments in youth sports is too extensive to include, but here are a few to get you thinking and teaching:

Making excuses and blaming others: People who do this learn nothing. Teach kids to be accountable for their own actions and their personal growth will begin immediately.

Lack of effort/bad attitude: Consistent effort leads to sustainable results; a good attitude allows it to happen.

Tough loss: Know your goal, learn from the losses and move forward.  “I never lose. I either win or learn.” — Nelson Mandela

• Not making a team: Instead of placing blame, look inside yourself. Learn from critiques and make it about your own effort instead of being crushed by someone else’s opinion.

Being disrespectful: It cannot be tolerated.

Youth sports are one of the best teaching tools we have in today’s society. Let’s help kids grow and mature by recognizing teachable moments!

Order a signed copy of Coach Chuck’s book, “How to Play Baseball: A Parent’s Role in Their Child’s Journey,” at www.chuckschumacher.com.

CHUCK SCHUMACHER: Coach Chuck — On the Road To Success, Not Taking The Shortcut Is The Shortcut

How long does it take to get a black belt in karate? Do you think my kid has a chance to play ball in high school or college? These are questions I’ve been asked numerous times throughout my teaching and coaching career, and the answer is always the same: It depends.

As our kids take their journey in sports, there’s a battle to be fought. The battle is within ourselves as we struggle with what we know to be just good parenting and the irresistible urge to push our kids to become superstars. It’s a battle that must be won for the sake of our kids.

People reach their goals within different time frames. Interest level, natural ability, attitude and perspective all play a role in how long it takes. Finances and other responsibilities are also part of the equation. Regardless, staying on your true path and avoiding shortcuts is the quickest way to reach your destination. This takes patience, perseverance and endurance on the part of young athletes — and their parents.

Shortcuts can get you lost, while increased effort will reveal the way.

When we take shortcuts, it’s usually an attempt to speed up the process and put ourselves on the fast track to the future where we hope our pot of gold exists. But by focusing too much on the future, you cease to live in the moment, you lose your way and your training becomes erratic and disconnected. As time passes, very little progress is made, disappointment sets in and by seeking more shortcuts, your efforts become a cycle of failure.

So live in the moment day by day, week by week, month by month and year by year as you train, and you will reach your goals when you’re supposed to — when you’re ready. If you wish to reach your goals quicker, instead of seeking shortcuts, increase your effort.

People with a good work ethic are less likely to look for shortcuts.

Good work ethic leads to “real” success. Whether they are 7 or 17, all athletes should be taught this truth at appropriate levels according to their age. One of my biggest pet peeves in this area is, after a hitting lesson with me, the student heads for the door leaving his/her parents to pick up the gear and haul it out to the car. As long as a parent allows this lazy, disrespectful behavior, it will not only continue — it’ll probably get worse.

When parents don’t require good effort from their children, seeking shortcuts becomes their way.

We all want success, and given the option would no doubt choose the quickest, easiest route every time. But if the goal is high, this truth applies: “Seeking shortcuts amounts to weak training with weak results.” When striving for a black belt in karate or a college scholarship in baseball, my students find out real quick that there will be no talk of shortcuts. Staying on the path and being consistent in correct training is crucial for a person to achieve these very high goals.

We all need to find the balance.

When kids are young, we should make sure a proper balance is struck between teaching technique, competition levels and having fun. If we can strike this balance, kids will enjoy the process. But if we make kids specialize too soon and treat them as professionals, not only are we taking shortcuts, we are denying them a normal childhood experience.

By trying different things, a child’s true passions can be revealed. If allowed to follow their honest path with realistic expectations and without pressure to perform beyond their current ability, young athletes will joyfully take the necessary steps toward reaching their goals. Thoughts of cutting corners will quietly disappear, skill will begin to develop and with encouragement, young athletes will come to understand the meaning of, “Not taking the shortcut, is the shortcut.”

If kids learn this valuable life lesson in sports, they will apply this philosophy to other areas of their life as well. It’s not all about winning — it’s about learning how to win!

Order a signed copy of Coach Chuck’s book, “How to Play Baseball: A Parent’s Role in Their Child’s Journey,” at www.chuckschumacher.com.

CHUCK SCHUMACHER: Coach Chuck — The Purpose of Youth Sports: It’s All About Perspective

It’s for the kids. Youth sports are supposed to be fun. Life lessons are learned through youth sports.

Everyone knows the right words. The problem is, you don’t always see these truths being applied. In fact, as each year passes and competition levels in youth sports rise, these words are becoming empty rhetoric.

chuck1What was once a natural way for kids to gain life lessons and experiences via the neighborhood pickup game has been replaced by highly organized, result-oriented leagues. Overly high expectations of very young kids are becoming the norm.

Because of specialization and professionalism, burnouts and overuse injuries are on the rise and kids are dropping out of organized sports in record numbers. Seventy percent of kids are quitting by age 13.

Is this the purpose of youth sports? To sour kids on the idea of signing up for their favorite sport because they have figured out that adults have a way of turning it into a job? Kids are very intuitive, and many times will say nothing until the damage has been done.

I know many parents who are devastated that their child no longer wants to live out their parent’s dreams. Yes, we all want the best for our kids, but it’s easy to lose track of what our child wants and instead impose our own ambitions at the expense of our child’s enjoyment. It’s easy to get ahead of ourselves by focusing on the future instead of just enjoying every moment of our kids sports experience now. If we would just let them develop based on their own interest level and true abilities, things would be different.

It’s the responsibility of parents and coaches to educate themselves about what it takes to integrate proper training technique with having fun. Finding this balance is the key to success in youth sports. If this is accomplished, kids will start to realize their full potential because they are enjoying the process. They will be able to see and follow their honest path whether it is in sports or some other activity. When a young athlete ceases to enjoy the process, it’s the beginning of the end of their sports journey.

The purpose of youth sports should be as much about learning sustainable life lessons as it is about winning games.

In the past, more kids had small jobs, such as a paper route where they could learn valuable lessons about responsibility, respect, self-discipline, accountability and teamwork. I, along with many kids in America, worked on the family farm.

chuck2But these life enriching opportunities are fewer now and we have become a more “entitled” society. Because of this, many kids today do not possess the life skills that their earlier counterparts developed at a young age. Therefore, I believe the main focus of youth sports should be to teach all kids how to win by using these life skills, not by just recruiting the best players. Let’s leave that to the pros.

Sadly, when winning takes center stage in youth sports, many kids eventually lose their love for the game. This is because their skill level typically does not measure up to the pressure being imposed on them by adults. Our goal in youth sports should not be to produce college or professional athletes, but to nurture kids in the way of personal character, skill development and physical fitness.

Ironically, if youth sports were approached this way, more kids would have a chance of reaching these very high goals, simply because they would retain their love for sports, and not quit.

Competition has a way of confusing the most rational of us.

When our own ambitions and expectations get in the way of letting our children live out their once-in-a-lifetime experience of just being a kid, we have missed the real purpose of youth sports. Remember, this is not their job. But sports can and should serve as a learning experience for other areas of our children’s lives.

If they drop out by age 13, this opportunity in sports is lost, and nothing can replace it.

Order a signed copy of Coach Chuck’s book, “How to Play Baseball: A Parent’s Role in Their Child’s Journey,” at www.chuckschumacher.com.

CHUCK SCHUMACHER: Coach Chuck — Self-Motivation: An Essential Tool For Success

Will had been taking batting lessons from me for about a year. He was a really nice 11-year-old kid with average athletic ability — and very respectable. We got along great! But he was progressing at a very slow pace, and it seemed like the instruction just wasn’t sinking in.

When kids are not motivated for whatever reason, any attempt at learning technique is going to fall short.
When kids are not motivated for whatever reason, any attempt at learning technique is going to fall short.

Finally one day, I asked Will if he had any interests other than baseball. He perked up and said, “I like acting.” He went on to tell me about the school play he was in last year when he played a lead role. He told me about an acting class for young actors he had heard of in Nashville ― I couldn’t shut him up!

We spent the rest of the baseball lesson talking about something Will had a genuine interest in. Will liked baseball OK, but he just wasn’t motivated to learn. If he follows his more honest path of acting, I’m guessing things will be different.

Without self-motivation, enthusiasm fades and most goals are never reached.

Will had a good reason for lack of motivation ― he wasn’t interested. Others who come to my gym for instruction have lots of interest and talent but lack the ability to show respect and give a good effort. There’s no excuse for this, and we have some work to do before any progress can be made on skill development!

When kids are not motivated for whatever reason, any attempt at learning technique is going to fall short. On the other hand, when players have an interest and are self-motivated, they seem to learn with ease. When self-motivation is encouraged every step of the way, kids will eventually learn to depend on themselves instead of expecting others to make things happen for them.

The sooner kids become self-motivators the better. This is the No. 1 lesson to be learned in youth sports if an athlete expects to continue to higher levels.

Here are a few things to consider that can help your young athlete get motivated and stay motivated:

Attainable goals ― Focus on your inner journey more than your outer journey. Your outer journey is the long-term goal. Your inner journeys are the steps to get there. It’s much easier to motivate yourself and stay motivated when your goal is to take the next step instead of trying to reach the top all at once.

Timetables ― When placing timetables on long term goals, you can lose your way because you lack patience. Failures happen on every journey. Understand this truth and frustration won’t get the best of you. Timetables are useful for short-term goals which are easier to reach and can help you stay motivated.

Comparing yourself to others ― Be careful here, as you will probably compare your current abilities with someone else’s more advanced abilities. Instead, be motivated by the success of others and get to work. In the words of Derek Jeter, “There may be people who have more talent than you, but there’s no excuse for anyone to work harder than you.”

In our modern, instant gratification society, becoming a self-motivator can be difficult. To do it, you can’t follow the norm; you must follow your own path.

Remember, it’s a lot easier to teach the concept of self-motivation to a young child when they have a genuine interest in what they are doing. Help them find a sport or activity they enjoy. When it comes to other responsibilities such as chores, help them understand why it’s important and self-motivation will follow.

When not feeling motivated to do something, the most important lesson I have learned is this: if you can convince yourself to do something important for yourself or others, you are “never” sorry you did it. You never say to yourself, “What was I thinking? Why did I help that person? Why did I help myself by going through that tough training session today?”

You will always see the value and be glad you were able to motivate yourself, and in time it will become easier to do what needs to be done. You will come to trust that it works, and you will become a self-motivated person!

Order a signed copy of Coach Chuck’s book, “How to Play Baseball: A Parent’s Role in Their Child’s Journey,” at www.chuckschumacher.com.

CHUCK SCHUMACHER: Coach Chuck — Martial Arts Philosophy: A Way of Mental Toughness

Many parents have told me that their child does well in the batting cage, but when playing in a game, it looks like they’ve never swung a bat.

Pressure causes the mind to race, the muscles to tighten and the body to fall out of rhythm. Therefore, an understanding of how to keep emotions in check is crucial for the development of mental toughness. As far as results are concerned, it’s the difference maker!

“Emotion can be the enemy. If you give in to your emotion, you lose yourself. You must be at one with your emotion because the body always follows the mind.” — Bruce Lee

Martial arts training can promote the development of mental toughness.
Martial arts training can promote the development of mental toughness.

This is the most fundamental truth in training, especially for a young athlete. But today’s youth sports culture does not cultivate mindfulness during competition. Instead, kids are being pressured to produce instant results and emotions are winning the battle. This misguided focus on outcomes inhibits the development of mental toughness.

Through many years of martial arts training, this simple truth has become instilled in me: that to excel at something, there must be a mindful process associated with it; just wanting something is not nearly enough. Karate-do (pronounced doe) means “The way of karate.” It’s more than physical self-defense movements. It’s a process of living one’s life. In baseball, it could be referred to as ”yakyu-do” or, “a way of baseball” — a way of teaching kids to be mentally strong through baseball, or whatever sport they have an interest.

Keep a calm mind ― an overcompetitive mind is a confused mind; it does not see things clearly and leads to an out of control body.

Like physical skill, mental toughness takes time to develop. Too much too soon and the mind will experience exhaustion, just like the muscles. During the game, loud, overbearing parents with unrealistic expectations only serve to confuse the mind of a young, inexperienced athlete. They become distracted by senseless instructions given by well-meaning, but unknowing adults, and the moment is lost. If this continues, kids become trained to listen to their parent’s voice during competition instead of trusting their own natural reactions. This backward approach makes them a weak ― and unhappy ― competitor. It must be remembered that when interest and enthusiasm are lost, mental toughness will no longer have an environment in which to grow.

Developing mental toughness has more to do with a person’s attitude and perspective than learning technique

When one learns to integrate respect, humility, self-discipline and self-control with the physical and emotional aspects associated with their art or sport, mental toughness is the result. The mind is able to let go of self-interest and is freed from distractions that would otherwise cause us to fail. When approached this way, thoughts of outcomes, other people’s expectations or developing skill quickly quietly disappear as training accumulates in us. The mind ceases to attach to negative and counterproductive thoughts, allowing us to just play the game naturally.

Martial Arts Philosophy

Lack of respect for an opponent will mean underestimating that opponent. Lack of humility in one’s self will result in a cessation of learning. Lack of self-discipline will make it impossible to stay the course when needed. And lack of self-control will impede your ability to bring your best to the situation.

These life lessons from the martial arts are real and sustainable, and an understanding of these truths will build a strong mind for competition and beyond. Teaching these truths should be front and center in all youth sports programs.

Kids just want their parents to come and watch them play, not intervene every time something doesn’t go their way. Martial arts philosophy teaches the character necessary to develop mental toughness — but so does good parenting.

The makeup of our character is what ultimately allows mental toughness to grow because with strong character, we intuitively want to do the right thing. By being accountable for our own behavior, we aren’t looking for shortcuts and we aren’t interested in blaming others or making excuses. We become strong!

Order a signed copy of Coach Chuck’s book, “How to Play Baseball: A Parent’s Role in Their Child’s Journey,” at www.chuckschumacher.com.

CHUCK SCHUMACHER: Coach Chuck — Confidence: How To Get It And Keep It

One day at my hitting school, during a class with 9-year-old boys, we were working on the technique of hitting the ball using a pitching machine. One boy, Jake, was struggling with this new skill. His dad finally decided to point out to me all the different things that he was doing wrong with his mechanics.

I replied with, “He’s doing all right. New things can take some time.”

Jake’s father said, “No ― he just won’t do what he’s told!”

I was a bit shocked by Jake’s father’s lack of patience and need for instant results. I felt like saying, “Why don’t you jump in there and let me speed the machine up to about 80 mph and I’ll tell you to ‘just hit it’ and see how you do.”

Instead, I directed my energy toward Jake to see if I could help him gain some confidence with something he was doing for the very first time.

Remaining patient and encouraging young players to stay on the path of their athletic journey will help them experience joy, have fun and gain confidence.

Everything takes time, as the saying goes. This is true for all of us, but especially for kids as they begin their journey in life, finding out who they are in terms of athletics, academics, relationships and the world in general. When we expect too much too soon from kids, it can lead to a loss of confidence. Kids will gain confidence in their own athletic skills by practicing correct technique over a period of time. This simple truth often gets derailed when the focus is on wanting things too soon — aka instant gratification.

This leads us to another problem in youth sports: expecting too little from kids. How can a young person’s confidence ever grow if we never allow them to experience failure? We learn from failure and success follows. It’s not the other way around. Yet, we often see parents interfering with the natural progression of skill and character development by complaining to coaches when their child doesn’t get their way ― or when their kids are sent to the bench because of a bad attitude.

If these same parents would explain to their kids that the way to get positive results is by looking within themselves instead of expecting others to make things happen for them, kids will gain confidence in their own ability to accomplish goals.

That’s what youth sports are all about!

By being accountable for their own behavior, players will gain respect from coaches, which is the first step in accomplishing their goal of being on the field instead of on the bench.

Finally, teach them this lesson: if you really have the desire to play a certain position, practice the skills necessary for that position and earn it yourself. Even if it doesn’t happen on your timeline, through correct effort and attitude, you will have instilled within yourself a method for future success. Remember, a person’s effort is a renewable resource. Those who understand this are usually the ones getting opportunities in life.

Developing skill leads to sustainable results, and this leads to a boost in confidence.

Parents’ constantly creating opportunities for their kids without requiring proper effort is not a sustainable path. It will eventually lead to a false sense of confidence.

When basic skills start developing through correct repetitions, more advanced techniques can be attempted. Through this process, confidence will grow like a seed being planted in the ground — and then nurtured over time.

Boxing legend Muhammed Ali puts it this way: “It’s the repetition of affirmations that leads to belief. And once that belief becomes a deep conviction, things begin to happen.”

What this means for a young athlete is, it takes time for confidence to grow. As adults, let’s give kids the time for that to happen by patiently and confidently guiding them toward self-improvement. Let’s try to see things from their perspective and teach them life lessons from our perspective.

By taking this journey with our kids, gaining confidence will be the destination. Playing sports will be the vehicle to get there.

Order a signed copy of Coach Chuck’s book, “How to Play Baseball: A Parent’s Role in Their Child’s Journey,” at www.chuckschumacher.com.

CHUCK SCHUMACHER: Coach Chuck — Self- Motivation: The Key To Sustaining Effort

You’ve decided to start a new exercise program to get in shape, or maybe you’re finally ready to commit to the study of martial arts you’ve always wanted to do. Perhaps learning a musical instrument or a second language has been on your mind for the past several years.

Great! You have to start with Day One, so if you have, congratulations!

In my last post, I talked about three ingredient’s to success: Effort, Time, Enthusiasm. These three things must be present or not much will be accomplished. Many people start something, but can’t seem to sustain it after the initial excitement has worn off.

Why is that? The answer I believe is, they haven’t learned to self-motivate.

Self-motivation is the key to sustaining effort over a long period of time. It’s a skill that must be learned; we don’t seem to come by it naturally.

A technique I have found very useful is to allow yourself to have the realization that you are never sorry you talked yourself into working out, practicing your instrument or language coarse or whatever it may be. You never say: What was I thinking by talking myself into this? What a waste of time!

It’s impossible not to feel good about yourself when you have motivated yourself to get the job done.

Self-motivation works every time. After a workout or practice session, by reflecting on how glad you are that you motivated yourself, you come to believe it will work and it gets easier to do. You feel good about yourself and you will make it a priority to continue.

Self-motivation eventually leads to self-discipline. Once you have that, the rest is easy!

Order a signed copy of Coach Chuck’s book, “How to Play Baseball: A Parent’s Role in Their Child’s Journey,” at www.chuckschumacher.com.